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Post by luvfishies on Jul 31, 2005 0:12:01 GMT
Hey. I don't get personal here, but a couple of you may know that I've been having a rough time with my "boyfriend" and his addiction/anger issues. He pushed my last button last Sun and I flipped out, and he left. Yes, the police were involved. ANYWAYS, even though I've changed the locks and nailed windows shut, I came home today to something devastating. My snail tanks had been BLEACHED. I opened the door to the reek of bleach. Wandered into the living area and noted that some tanks were WHITE. The 10g Brig tank with BlueBoy Betta, the 27 with the insularums and Endlers, and the 135g with the Canas, Marisas, and Haustrums had all been BLEACHED. I tossed mega-dechlor in there, and remembered I had just gotten some ChlorAmX in the mail and dosed with that as well. I figured that treating would be faster than waterchanges. I'll still do waterchanges, of course, but I've bought a little time. Some snailiens(a few Canas, and a couple of Brigs) are showing signs of life, some are obviously gone. All the fish, of course, are gone. What kind of sick mind would do this? It's known that my fishies and snailiens are my passion, and that to hurt them is to absolutely kill me. Well, the police have been called, but there's not a lot they can do, except keep it on file in case of future incidents. I have no doubt that there will be future incidents. I will be nailing/screwing the patio door shut, as the security bar and other things I have installed obviously don't mean squat. Wish me luck, please, and pray for my poor burned snailiens. The fish I hope went quickly, the biobugs will be iffy. I can only hope that my poor snails were able to lock up tight and protect themselves. I have no idea how long they were subjected to the torture of bleach in their water. The smell was pretty strong when I came home, so I hope that it wasn't too long and painful for them. Snailboom, I don't know if I will have those Canas to ship to you. I'm sorry, but I'm sure you don't want snails that may have had burned gills from the bleach. There goes my breeding program  On a positive note, the ChlorAmX seems to have IMMEDIATELY neutralised the chlorine. It neutralises chlorine, ammonia, chloramine and 1 tsp is good for 40g ( aquascienceresearch.com/cloram-x.html ) I didn't expect it to be put to this test, but it's passed with flying colours. There is NO chlorine or ammonia in the tanks as I'm typing this. |
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Post by pheonixx on Jul 31, 2005 8:54:18 GMT
Caroline Ohh my god love
Daz and I are reading this with absolute horror its early Sunday morning here and I read your post out to Daz with great difficulty as I am crying buckets..you know I have a soft heart but this would bring the strongest person down to their knees..words fail us and we wish we could be there for you in persons to help and support you..but you know we are here for you in cyber land if you wish to PM me your phone number I would ring you if you have the need to talk to someone{not sure on how much support you have} I too have had my fair share of A holes in my life and your ex sounds like the daddy of them all...he has found your achilles heel and may he rot in hell for the evil he has done to your heart and your innocent creatures..I am a big believer in karma and this person will be payed back rest assured hun...but enough of him he is gone and the main concern is to keep him out of harms way...we will be praying and thinking of you..it does not matter you are so far away you are a friend and location means nothing...Daz says when you are in a better position with your tanks we will send you whatever you need to get you started again and try to help you mend this dreadful hurt that has come your way....we pray that the snailians and fish went quick and there was not much suffering but most of all we pray for the tough guys the survivors and for you to Caroline that you dont let this evil guy destroy your spirit and that there are good guys out there who will love you and treat you kindly and with love and respect as you so rightly deserve...I cant say say anymore but just to say we are here for you...love Linda & Daz
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Post by anjieburdett on Jul 31, 2005 9:36:39 GMT
What can i say - this is horrendous!! What kind of a spineless cowardly monster would hurt harmless innocent creatures, unable to defend themselves - just to get at the person who cares for them?? Its amazing how low some people will stoop. And i totally agree Linda - what goes around, comes around! He'll get his...one way or t'other.
I hope too that the little creatures didn't suffer too long or hard, and that the survivors pull through.
Thinking of you...and them. Keep your chin up and don't let the B*****D grind you down.
Anjie,x.
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Post by luvfishies on Jul 31, 2005 16:30:55 GMT
Thank you guys/gals! Your words mean more than you know.
Today there seems to be more hope. I think he only managed to kill off about 50% of the poor creatures, and the survivors are moving around a little. I have no idea as to the longterm effects of this tragedy, but I'm sure that it can't be good for them to have been exposed to Bleach like that.
I'll be continuing with the waterchanges today, so much for the other housework that's piled up. This is more important than a messy house.
What's odd is that this "person" loves animals. His ANGER at me must be huge for him to have done this. I'm just shaking my head and wondering what kind of mind would do something so horrendous. I can't even imagine doing something like this.
Must fly, I've got hose and buckets ready to go.
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Post by lotsofsnails on Jul 31, 2005 16:49:23 GMT
oh thats terrible im sorry.
at least he's gone now. just keep attending to the snails, and be optomistic. i'm sure some of them will survive if you work hard. snails are very hardy creatures and they can put up with a lot so just keep telling yourself they'll be ok.
kind regards
mike
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Post by Val on Jul 31, 2005 17:39:14 GMT
Caroline,
I am so so sorry to read this. He wanted to hurt you and this is the way he could hurt you most of all. I really hope that the survivors pull through O.K. I am trying to think of something comforting to say and cannot think of anything more than what has already been said. Do let us know how the remaining snails get on.
Thinking of you.
Val x
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Post by luvfishies on Aug 1, 2005 2:13:10 GMT
Hey,,,
the survivors have very little muscle strength, and no appetite. My once happy and healthy snailiens are suffering, I think. I've done what I can, I just hope that I don't lose any more, but I think I will, over the next few days/weeks.
Linda, you don't have PM enabled here, you've got MAIL, though!
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Post by Emma on Aug 1, 2005 15:36:46 GMT
What a sickening story  I am really sorry to hear about ur losses.. I cannot fathom how someone can justify the killing of innocent creatures to get at someone else. Its terrible. How can the person call themselves an animal lover?? A pet lover maybe.. but not an animal lover..  I really hope ur poor snails make a recovery xx The poor little things.. must have cut ur heart to see them like that  best wishes for u and ur pets.. Emma x |
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Post by Agrippa on Aug 2, 2005 6:53:50 GMT
Ohh, Luvfishies... I don´t know what to say, it´s horrible, Was almost crying as I read your thread. I´ll be thinking of you, wishing you the best of luck with the surviving snails. Keep up the spirit, though it must seem hard right now. Best Regards Mia |
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Post by SnailTrail on Aug 2, 2005 12:21:21 GMT
That's terrible....what a horrible, spiteful man.
You're well rid of him.....and I hope your snailies make it ok.
*hugs*
Janet
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Post by Kat on Aug 2, 2005 19:00:17 GMT
That's horrible. Please be careful with yourself as well. I don't know him personally, but some people who are capable of attacking or treating an animal cruelly will not stop there, and some, as they say, are just practicing or getting started. What he is capable of doing to the pets you love he might be capable of doing to you...I hope he will leave you alone, but can't hurt to take extra precautions.
I don't know if this will help, but my sister installed a webcam in her computer at home so she can keep an eye on her dog from her office. If you think he might break into your house again maybe a security video/nanny cam or something like that might help as evidence against him...
Hugs, Kat
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Post by Amy x on Aug 9, 2005 15:47:24 GMT
oh my god! thats awful!! my heart sank when i read that. that is the most cruel thing... i dont know what to say hun. im so sorry *hugs*
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Post by luvfishies on Aug 10, 2005 5:24:07 GMT
I'm OK, guys. And I do know what he's capable of. Been there, not pretty.
It's been an ongoing battle re his boozing/doping and my "addiction" called the INTERNET. At least I have something worthwhile that interests me, as far as I'm concerned. He was over to get some of his pathetic crap the other day, and did apologise for the snailiens. Like that's going to make things better, a$$hole. He offered to help with the waterchanges, and even took an interest in the Vivs/chubs/pumkinseeds/smallmouth bass minnows that I have collected and added judiciously to tanks. Again, yeah right. Sucking up, methinks. I was almost taken in by it, again, but thank goodness my brain engaged, and not my glands/heart.
I've enrolled in Anger Management and have my assessment next Wed. If I see him right now Iwould seriously hurt him, and that's not like me at all.
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Post by Darren Willis on Aug 10, 2005 22:49:26 GMT
What a jack off!!! To me it's no different than some guy who murdered a child saying sorry to the parents ... it just doesn't cut the mustard .... I really don't know how he even has the nerve to open his stupid mouth to be honest ... it's guys like this that make me feel ashamed to be a man. He's a real lucky guy , really lucky that i don't live in the vacinity .... he'd be having surgery right now to remove my right foot from up his back side .... foul creature.
No Caroline , don't you give into that motherfunker .... you don't need him or his sorry assed appologies .... your freedom has just begun and mark my words your life will only get better ... you can live for you now and not babysit some immature SOB who can't seem to get his own head from up his butt.
Has the cat turned up yet?
You know it's surprising how many people I come across that have such shite in their life , it makes me all the more respectful of what I have. I wish everyone could experience the wonderful relationship that I have now , I've been through hell and back to get here but at last my Linda was there .... I found perfection in my eyes , I found a real woman who I feel 110% secure with .... I fear nothing relationship wise now .... I have overcome that journey , my new journey is one of health ... and again I shall over come that one eventually ... one way or another.
I've been in a relationship that was violent and she was into drugs and alcahol , she was half my size but I got battered on a regular occurence. I didn't do anything wrong on any of the occassions , but she saw fit to kick me in when ever she felt like it ... yeah I stuck it for a couple of years , don't know why I didn't leave ... stupidity I guess looking back at it all ... but staying with a scum bag never works , I tried it and what did I get for my efforts?? I got stabbed by her , luckily for me she was not that good with a blade , she managed to stab me in the collar bone area .... she later informed me that she was aiming for my neck , and indeed a couple of inches higher and i doubt i would be typing this now ....... I have to admit I lost it at that point , there I was sliced to the bone and bleeding all over the place. My head just went and I told myself not to give her another chance to use that blade so unfortunately I kicked the hell out of her .... I know it was bad , I'm not proud of it but I lost control ... I had been pushed to do something that I am against doing ..... I could have killed her , and that is just not what relationships should be about. An arguement now and again yeah that's normal but to live a life of misery and a life that keeps you on the edge all the time can only end in one of two ways in my opinion ... you end up dead or they do .. either way it is purely a waste of life and love.
well what a rant lol , so yeah Caroline .... please be strong.
Cheers
Daz
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Post by Darren Willis on Aug 16, 2005 22:43:39 GMT
Why am I starting to feel that people have judged me by this post?
The boards have been deathly quiet since I posted that above , if people have judged me by that then that is very sad .... as I said I am not proud of what happened and the whole point was to demonstrate that everyone has a breaking point and it's just not worth it the end.
Anyway hope to see some faces on here soon.
Daz
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I am really sorry to hear about ur losses..
I really hope ur poor snails make a recovery xx The poor little things.. must have cut ur heart to see them like that 
